Chapter 1
Think And Grow Rich

Hello Team

Napoleon States
Truly, "thoughts are things," and powerful things at
that, when they are mixed with definiteness of purpose, persistence, and a BURNING DESIRE for their translation
into riches, or other material objects.

When taking a look over the past few months of my life
I can very clearly see the pattern of the translation
of thoughts into material form. I have reached a point
in my life where I want to own my life and am willing
to do whatever it takes to get there.

In this decision I have come to see many things I must
change in my day to day life in order to reach my
desires. I have lived in a poverty consciousness for
so long that nearly everything in my life has followed
the pattern of negative, poverty consciousness which
in translation has left me with a negative poverty
lifestyle.

Since I have joined Mentoring For Free and have began
to use critical judgment I now look at the outcome I
desire instead of the outcome which I fear, each of
these thought patterns carry with them a strong
emotion which direct me to the outcome I live with.

In this process of retraining my mind to think of the
positive outcome I desire instead of the negative out
come I fear I sometimes find I have to look at things
several times before I see I am looking at things all
wrong.

I have confronted some things in my life recently
which have needed to be changed for some time now.

Some of these things are so serious that they could
have at any time changed or even ended my life as I
know it forever. When I first began to analyze the
situation and how I should change it I only came up
with one answer, "I would have to leave everything
I truly love and begin to build a life without them".

With this thought in mind I began to see everything
slipping away.

After about the millionth time I really thought things
through I decided to think about what I truly desire
in the outcome instead of what everyone else would
think of me if I stayed with it and tried to change
it.

As I started to think it I started to feel the emotion
which it carried with it. I have since been staying
consistent in thinking of my desire instead of my
fears and I have truly seen everything begin to fall
into place and start changing to follow the pattern
my thoughts have set forth to translate into
material form.

I have made changes in my life and in my family's
lives which no one would have thought possible and
I did it in a very short amount of time by thinking
myself into the situation I desire to be in.

I will be staying plugged into the mental cleanse
calls and turning in each lesson this time through.

I have made the conscious decision that I will not
miss a lesson even if I don't feel as if I have
something as good to say as the rest of the Team
and as I follow with this great Team I will grow
stronger with each chapter.

It is a huge process to change 32 years of what I
was taught to think and live, but with persistence
I can change anything I desire all by changing my
thoughts.

Thanks To Everyone
Larry Unruh
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Thoughts are Things -

Hills states that when opportunity comes it has a
sly habit of slipping in by the back door and it
is often disguised in the form of misfortune or
temporary defeat.

This past Friday morning I was giving the opportunity
to put into action what I have been learning.  I must
confession, I did not start out using my thoughts in
a positive  direction.

I am a Flight Attendant and was on call this weekend
(Fri. Sat. Sun). My "on call" duty time starts at mid
night Friday morning.  I live in Kentucky and work in
New York City. So, I have to commute to work.

I had just arrived at my apartment in New York on
Thursday night around 10:30 PM. I was just getting
settled to sleep the night and the phone rang. It
was Scheduling calling me to tell me that I had a
trip.

I had to be at Kennedy airport by 2:00 AM to work a
flight to Paris, France. At that moment it time I was
looking at this as a misfortune.

I had not had any sleep, I had just gotten there, taken
off all my make-up, and was ready for bed and I was not
on duty yet. WHY ME!  I did some mental ranting and
raving, obviously not practicing the mental cleanse.
Then proceeded to get ready to go back to the airport.

When I arrived in the area where we brief before the
flight, all of use where on the same page. Ranting and
raving about being the ones "picked" to work this when
we where not on duty.

When had not sleep, we had been up since early morning,
etc, etc,....Then one of the flight attendants stopped
us all in our tracks.  She said we needed to be looking
at this from a different point of view.

What if you had received a call in the middle of the
night, been told you had won a trip to Paris, France.

Your hotel was paid for, you where going to get feed
all the way over and all the way back. You had 2 hours
to be at the airport and you would be in Paris for 15 -
17 hours.

Your hotel was walking distance to the Eiffel Tower
and you had time to go there and have night out in
Paris.

How would you be feeling then? Happy, thrilled beyond
belief. You could not get to the airport fast enough.

Right then it hit me, I had a wonderful opportunity.
I changed my attitude instantly. I also learned that
I have a great deal of work to do on my thoughts.

The trip gave me the opportunity to share a product
that helped keep every crew member going for the long
haul.

We did not leave New York until 3:30 in the morning and
landed in Paris at 4:30 PM their time. We had all been
up for over 24 hours. I also had the opportunity to
make some marketing videos in front of the Eiffel Tower,
create new friends and potential customers.

Thanks Michael and Linda for giving me the opportunity
to learn and grow.

Your friend,
Debi Talbert
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I read chapter one last night before going to bed.This afternoon I found myself thinking about this man that
I saw the other day and felt the need to write it down
on paper.

It is amazing to me how for some reason everything is
so clear in my head.  In the past I always had such a
hard time putting my thoughts on paper.

It is almost as if it isn't coming from me but from
within me. Anyway's here is a story about a man. I
bet he's a red.

He walked in the door a "handsome man" in his grey
business suit. His cell phone in his ear.  There was
a cheerful greeting from the person behind the counter
"Good Morning!". The greeting was ignored.  But I'm
sure this guy must be really important if he is
conducting business while shopping.

I observed him from a distance, something about him
peeked my curiosity. ...... As he was lost in his
conversation, he made irritated faces as he moved
around the people in the room.

Couldn't they see that he was an important business
man?! I mean he is obviously on the phone, step out
of his way.  After he made his selection and moved
to the front counter he sat his items down and threw
his credit card on the counter never looking at the
cashier and never stopped talking to his client.

 The cashier smiled and asked him if he found every
thing okay and the man turned his back to her as if
she wasn't there.  After she handed him receipt and
wished him a good day he made what sounded like a moan.

I'm not sure but I think it was a thank you.  He left
the store and started walking accross the street and
almost walked right in front of a car, but the car
stopped as he yelled at the driver.

I found myself wanting to run after him and say
"Mister! You forgot something.  You forgot there is
a beautiful life going on and you are missing it."

I'm sad for him. He just doesn't get it.  His life
is passing him by.

Thank you God for letting me observe this man and
making me realize how much I have grown and how blessed
I am.  We are what we think about.

I know the kind of thinking this man does.  That used
to be me.

A few months ago I made a decision to go back to work.
It hurt my ego because I thought that I would never
have to go back to work but I knew it was something
that I had to do.

I choose to believe that my going back to work is
simply a temporary set back and an opportunity to
grow as a person.

This man missed out on a great opportunity to meet
a terrific person, for I was the cashier behind the
counter.

Your friend for life,
Wendy Krick
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Chapter 1

I am so glad and thankful to be here. To start al
over from chapter one. I followed faithfully from
chapter 11  to the end. Now I am ready to start the
learning process on becoming FREE of mental anguish
and concentrating on success instead of failure.

For years my believe was to contemplate success but
envision failure...Why one might ask. Well just because
I have learned that expecting the worst and hopping
for the best was the way to think.

If I expect the best and it doesn't happen then I
am not disappointed, because I expect the worst.
Yeah well it use to make sense it doesn't anymore.

I have stopped 3 feet  from the gold I have more
then once I think. No more, it doesn't matter what's
going on I will keep keeping on no matter what.

Instead of letting depression set in when failure
occur I will analyze and strengthen my position
and p[re[are for success. I have been expected
great results for the last 4 month I am expecting
riches to come to me in abundance just because it
is the only way I can see it now.

I have much to learn though. All my life I work
real hard, constantly, now I learn that I can be
come rich with little to no hard work.

I really need to understand this principle and I
am open to suggestions. I never really understood
the word "impossible". When ever I was told some
thing was impossible I had to try it and see by
myself.

I have done many things just because it was im-
possible. And has life went on I realized that
these impossible things were only impossible
because I stopped 3 feet short of the gold.

Mostly listening to the best of friend that tells
me " you can't do this" . What a waste of time.
There is many things here I don't yet understand
but I believe I can succeed so I will stay in as
long has it take to understand.

I am learning to control my thoughts I am learning
that I am the master of my fate and the captain of
my soul.

By interacting with the participants in this group
I will learn the proper way and will finish what I
started. I will succeed and I will live to enjoy it.

And so are all of you here.

Thank you Michael and Linda for creating a journey.
My hope is to get together with you in person.

Love to all
Bernard Tritz
~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Thanks to all contributing authors.  Your insights on Chapter One are most appreciated!

Henrietta
The Mentoring Mom

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Education Doesn't Stop when You Graduate

        

Michael Dlouhy on the importance of doing a 30 Day Mental Cleanse.  When you join us, let Michael know that Henrietta sent you.

Your mind is being programmed everyday. Either you’re doing it yourself, or somebody else is. If you’re not in charge, then you’ll really struggle for success in network marketing.

Are you letting the radio, the TV, the internet, the newspaper, or friends & family program you? If you are, then you are definitely being programmed for lack & limitation.

If you’re in your car with the radio on, that radio has a tuner. You can tune in hundreds of radio stations. Those radio waves bombard you with negativity all day long. You are being programmed.

Do you turn the TV on and just leave it on while you’re home? Again, you’re getting constant programming. This stuff, at best, is trivial. At the worst, it’s very, very negative.

And when you’re programmed with negative garbage by radio & TV several hours a day, 7 days a week, 4 weeks a month, 12 months a year, year after year after year … it takes a toll. You develop a negative outlook on life and your MLM business … often without even knowing it.

Learn To Program Yourself

What happens with your mind, subconsciously, when negative friends & family members are talking to you? You are being programmed.

For you to have the success you want and deserve in life, it’s critical that you learn to block out this garbage. That’s why when we coach people, we have them plug into a 30-day mental cleanse, so you can turn off the chatter.

We started this mental cleanse not too long ago. And yet, I have had many, many dozens of emails from participants, telling me that it has totally changed their lives. You can get more details on the 30 Day Mental Cleanse at

30 Day Mental Cleanse.

Success Requires That You Get Rid of the Negativity Forever

It’s critical that you be honest with yourself. Do you want MLM business success so much that you’re willing to pay the price of giving up TV, giving up radio, giving up negativity for 30 days?

If you participate in this process for just 30 days, it will change your life. You will learn to stop the both the constant external chatter and the constant internal mental chatter … and to start reprogramming yourself with positive self-talk.

How Do You Stop The Negative Chatter In Your Brain?

First, you learn to train yourself to turn off that external negativity. That bit of negative programming you run into everywhere can bring you down for days and make you doubt yourself. You’ve got to stop that from happening.

Next, you learn to re-program your brain with positive self-talk. For instance, here is what I use:

“I am having fun, building the largest, most profitable, highest-retention organization ever built in the history of network marketing, easily and consistently through education and teamwork.”

That’s my self-talk. When I’m out in the field mowing, bush-hogging with the tractor, that’s what I’m saying to myself. Anytime I’m driving somewhere, that is my self-talk.

When I first started using this particular self-talk, I probably said it 100-200 times a day. Now, the whole 27-word phrase is just a subconscious thing, repeating in my mind, over and over and over. It blocks out all the other chatter.

And the reason that’s so powerful is, when you stop the chatter, you can truly, truly listen to people. And THAT is the skill that is so critical to your success in both business & personal relationships.

I will believe in you until you have the strength to believe in yourself.

Henrietta
The Mentoring Mom
Create Your Success

        

How do you feel (and I stress the word "feel") when you're talking to a prospect about your network marketing business?  Or about a product to a customer?

Do you feel a lump in your throat? Do you feel a brick in your stomach?  Or maybe just over all blah?

Do you believe in the words that you are speaking to them?  I mean really believe in them.  How your body feels is a direct indication if you do or not.

All humans are connected and we can feel if someone is being sincere in what they say long before we have real evidence of it.
If you do not believe in what you're saying, how can you expect someone else to believe you?

When you are honest and sincere with people, you don't have to convince them of anything.  They know what they want.  If they know you are sincere and there ready and able to help them, they will come to you.

Henrietta
The Mentoring Mom
There is More to Success than Money

        

I have a question for you.

If you needed Brain Surgery, who would you want preforming it on you?

Would you allow a resident doctor, who knows all the latest techniques and how to use all the latest gadgets but has never preformed surgery before?

Of course not!  You want someone with experience!

Would you have the doctor that practiced medicine for 50 years but has been retired for 20?
You know, the guy who spends all his time on the golf course instead of reading and practicing the latest up to date techniques?

Uh no.  Not me.

I want a surgeon that knows, and has been practicing the newest up to date techniques and procedures. 
I want him to know exactly how all the new gadgets work.  I want them to know and understand the latest research findings and exactly how it will benefit my surgery. 
I Want a surgeon who is successfully practicing TODAY!


It's the same with my network marketing company.

I wouldn't want to learn the skills I need to be a success in today's industry from someone who organized meetings in a hotel room 15-20yrs ago.

I don't want to EVER hear someone tell me to buy leads.  You will not be building a downline that can duplicate over and over from buying leads.  Nor do I want to waste my time reading a script to someone who never had any real intention to start a home based business in the first place.

I don't want to learn from those fast talking, high flying Guru wannabes, that talk the talk, but have NEVER walked the walk.  How can someone teach you to do something if they never done it themselves?  hmm interesting concept don't you think?

I will NEVER make a list of my friends and family EVER! 
I need them to be around to go on vacation with, not hiding when they see me coming.

Who do you want to learn from?

Maybe from someone who is, this very day, actively building an organization that is always at the top of their company's winners circle?

How about from someone who can show you how to generate your own leads without throwing away your money you have yet to earn?

How about giving you the skills YOU need to be an effective leader for your entire organization?

That is who I would want to learn from.  Thank goodness I found such a person too.

Isn't this the person you would prefer to learn from too?

Henrietta Hakes
Call me anytime
250 459 2467
hhakes@gmail.com

Success in 10 Steps Free Ebook

        

Great, you have made the decision to start a business from home. 

Many people are drawn to the network marketing industry to take advantage of a turn key business venture.  A much faster start to making money than if a person starts a home based business from scratch on their own.  They avoid finding reliable product suppliers, or deciding on a service to offer.  Setting up business accounts, being able to collect and remit taxes can be completely avoided, the company does that for you.  In most cases you don't have to stock any products.  It allows a person to get down to the business of promoting the business right away.

Now the question is how do you choose a mlm that is right for YOU.  That is not as easy as falling in love with a product and thats it.  In order for you to have success should have a few standards to measure a company to.  Consider it a job interview.  But you are the one doing the interview.  Why should the company be lucky enough to have YOU market them and their products?

I would recommend that you use the 5 Pillars standard to compare companies to in order to see if they are set up for your success as well as their own.  My good friend and mentor, Michael Dlouhy describes the 5 Pillars in the video.





If your not sure how to spot a 5 Pillars company once you've watched the movie, I would be happy to help you out with that.  I will help you learn how to spot 5 Pillar companies and how to avoid pyramid schemes, illegal gifting programs and companies that are not set up for their members benefit but for the companies.

When you're in  business for yourself, it is important to learn how to think, not what to think.  Once you learn this skill, you have it for a life time.

Henrietta
The Mentoring Mom
Learning How to Choose an MLM

        

I won't pull any punches on this subject.  Buying leads has been one of the biggest scams feeding off the MLM industry and hard working honest people for far to long.

First of all, I too have bought leads when I first started my MLM career.  I did it because my sponser told me to.  She told me to because that is what her sponser told her and so on up the line.

I don't blame these people.  Their intent was not to harm but to be a supportive team.  They were honestly trying to help the team to grow. 

With that being said, I bought the leads, I followed the scripts I was given.  I had a few people make an appointment to hear my biz op.  But guess what?  With the technology that we have today, they were able to see my phone  number calling them back and they just didn't pick up.  I had other leads get mad and curse at me because several people were calling them day and night pitching to them their deal.  I also want to point out that there were "fresh leads" that were never supposed to have been contacted before!

I had people hang up on me, wrong numbers and I put up with all kinds of abuse.  A person can only take so much before their self esteem starts to suffer.  That is when I stopped buying leads.

I want you to watch this video.  Listen to all the brilliant people who spent thousands of dollars on leads and what their results were for doing so.  These are teachers, people who worked for Fortune 500 companies, private investigators and other well educated people.





How does that make you feel?  Do you feel that they were stupid and deserved to be suckered for that much money?  If you said yes, I would have to disagree with you.  Here is why.

Network marketing is a people business.   People do not join a company or product as much as they join the person who signs them  up.  The sponser promises the new enrollee that they will get all the training and support the need in order to reach their financial goals.  Then they are told the need leads and buying leads is an excellent way to get them.  So of course they buy some from one of the many brokers available.

Sometimes you will find that your upline is the owner to one of these lead companies they are telling you to buy your leads from.  Do you think this ethical?  I don't.

Now, here is a simple little way to tell if leads will work for you.  If you're being told to buy leads, this is just a suggestion, but if you do this I would love to hear what happens.

First of all, ask the person who is telling you to buy leads, usually your sponser but it could be someone in your upline, if they themselves were brought in as a purchased lead.  If they say yes, ask them to introduce you to someone they brought in from a purchased lead.  Then ask that person to introduce you to one of their person who they brought in from a purchased lead.  Are you getting the picture? 

If leads really do work to build a successful network marketing business, then they should be able to introduce you to at least 6 people, all in a straight line, that were brought in to the company from a list of purchased leads.

Simple as that!

I have a simple way to generate unlimited leads for my network marketing business.  If your interested in how I do it, I would be more than happy to show you.  

Henrietta
TheMentoringMom

How to Generate my Own Leads

        

I wanted to share a really wonderful movie with you.

 It really sums up why I do what I do.

 The simple act of caring for someone and supporting them really goes farther and deeper than you can imagine.


To Make A Difference Movie

I hope it inspires you to reach out and make a difference.

 Henrietta
TheMentoringMom
 Learn How to Be a Mentor with a Servants Heart

        

I talk to new people almost everyday about what I do and how I can help them, as a network marketing coach for their business.

I get a real kick out of telling them it is a totally 100% FREE service and completely generic program that will help them with any of the hundreds of network marketing companies out there.

Many of them ask me, "Ok, if you do this for free, how do you make any money?"

My answer is, "I have a network marketing company that I work full time. That is how I make money. But I also like to mentor people, who need support to build their own business the way someone helped me. It's my way of giving back. You can not expect to be a success if all you do is take take take. You HAVE to give back!"

However, I do understand people's reluctance to believe that such an extensive program could ever be provided for free.
But it is free, we do not charge you EVER for taking the skills training, and one on one coaching.

I have to tell you that I thought the exact same thing when I started with Mentoring for Free. But, since I was told it was "100% free", and I really needed some help to build my network marketing business, I thought to myself, I would do exactly what they say, and IF they ever ask me for money, I would quit. I was going to first get all the free information I could first!

Ask yourself , have you ever helped someone out because you wanted to or just because you could?
What was your intention at that moment? Did you want to help someone out who was struggling or did you want to just make someone happy? Or maybe a bit of a selfish reason, you wanted to do something for someone so you would feel good about yourself.

Now what if you had the opportunity to save someone from walking in front of a moving bus? Would you do it? Probably.

If you had burned yourself on a hot pot and someone was just about to do the exact thing as you did, would you stop them from getting hurt? I am sure you would.

Well that basically describes what we do at Mentoring for Free. The majority of us have been burned at some point during our network marketing careers. Most of us joined a company that hit and run our wallets and self esteem. Now we just want to reach out to others to help them avoid the pitfalls we have gone through.

Mentoring for Free has taught me a lot of different specialized skills I needed to succeed in my network marketing company. It really can do the same for you if you put some real effort into it.

Give me a call I will tell you all about it
250 459 2467

        

According to www.dictionary.com, "Mentor" means,

"1.	a wise and trusted counselor or teacher.

2.	an influential senior sponsor or supporter."

Many times when we hear the word "mentor", we think of an adult mentoring a child or a young person.

This is not always the case. A mentor can be anyone who can help to support you, guide you, show you what practices that do and do not work. A mentor can save you a lot of time and frustration with their guidance. They can help you stay focused on your goals when it is easy to stray off your chosen path.

Now the big question. Why should you have a mentor in MLM?

"I thought I had a mentor when I signed up with the company? Isn't that what my sponser / upline is supposed to do for me? Are they not suppose to train me and mentor me in this business until I am successful?"

Of course they are. But... Have you asked them what kind of training they invested in? Or have they actually taken the time to learn how?

Most people are under the assumption that MLMs, network marketing companies or even direct sales companies are "easy" to work and require hardly any training at all. They buy into the hype that is written and blasted about the company and join without thoroughly researching it. They are told that if they simply do what they are told, they will succeed.

If this is so true why are only about 3% of the business builders successful? Hmmm interesting.

Does that mean that 97% of the people that wanted to make an extra income from home are lazy? Is that why they aren't successful? Do they not know how to follow directions that their "mentors" give them? I really doubt that.

They simply were not trained in network marketing!

I don't know about you, but every job I have ever heard of, requires some kind of skills training.

Whether you flip burgers, or your a brain surgeon, you require the training in order to do your job in the best possible way. Some professions you are required to be educated prior to taking on the job. Other professions train you on the job. But, they all require a certain amount of training.

Why would network marketing be any different?

If your mentor that signed you up to the company has a style of business building that is uncomfortable to you, how do you expect to become successful? Can you see yourself doing what they do? Are you comfortable talking to everyone within a 3ft. circle about your business?
Do you enjoy cold calling? Do you have a system in place that other people can duplicate?
I mean, really duplicate.

Sometimes, a lot of times, the person that signed you up may just be regurgitating information and directions. They repeat the same stuff that their upline told them, and they are repeating same information that their upline told them. Does it work?

Look at your pay cheque. Find out how many people are joining and canceling their memberships every month, above you and below you. Are you able to retain your own downline or are they quitting faster than they joined?

In your heart of hearts, are you confident that you will be able to successfully train people when you have signed someone up? Do you really understand the skills required to be successful in network marketing?

If your upline is not able to fulfill your needs, it is okay to find someone else who can help you. Network marketing is a profession. It is your business after all. It is okay to seek other professional opinions and support in order for YOU to succeed.

Even the most prestigious brain surgeon seeks help when he has questions. That is what makes a professional a professional. There is nothing wrong with seeking the help, support and guidance you need when you need it. You are not any less of a professional for asking for the extra support.

It is actually the opposite. If you do not ask, then you are wasting time, making mistakes and probably wasting money that a proven mentor could have helped you avoid. That, my friend, is amateurish.

Not sure where to look? You can start here, Mentoring for Free, can train you so that you aquire the necessary skills you need to build a successful business and train others to do the same.


Henrietta
TheMentoringMom
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